Module 8:Interpersonal Effectiveness 

In DBT, interpersonal effectiveness is about navigating relationships in a way that balances three key goals:

1. Getting your objectives met (asking for what you need or saying no),

2. Maintaining or improving relationships, and

3. Maintaining self-respect.

The skills (like DEAR MAN, GIVE, and FAST) help you communicate clearly, set boundaries, and respond to others in a way that is both assertive and respectful.

A key part of this module is challenging interpersonal myths—rigid, unhelpful beliefs that interfere with effective communication. These might include ideas like:

• “I shouldn’t ask for what I need.”

• “Saying no is selfish.”

• “If I disagree, the relationship will fall apart.”

• “Other people’s needs always come first.”

DBT teaches that these beliefs often lead to passivity, resentment, or avoidance. By recognizing and questioning them, individuals can replace them with more balanced, realistic thinking—making it easier to communicate effectively and maintain healthy relationships.